Finding a place for all men
Dr Hayden Foster, a clergyman in the Church of Ireland was pivotal in establishing Men to Men in 2001. It developed from an original group of men with whom he worked, as a psychotherapist. Many had lost access to their children through broken relationships. In some cases clients had been victims of domestic and emotional abuse from female partners or other family members, and had been refused access to their children even in cases where a court ruling was in place. Some had lost their homes. In other cases, men had reached a particular crisis and found that society was not helpful. Many felt that the place of the father had been removed. Other men wished to change behaviour that was causing them and others difficulty.
Men versus Men
As the group developed, those involved came to realise that there was the need for a greater understanding between men, as well as between men and women, which created the group’s name – Men to Men.
From this diverse group evolved an organisation working to bring about societal change.
As the Group has grown, we have moved beyond dwelling on crises to emphasising the positive aspects of men’s experiences and bringing this to bear on difficulties that arise in their lives. We also offer counselling to women.
Men to Men has no particular gender model for men or women. We work with people as they are.
Men to Men is committed to working with other groups for the benefit of children, women and men. Our emphasis on men does not imply a lack of concern for the good of all society. We would contend that the treatment of men from infancy to old age, quite often by other men, is damaging.
Men to Men will co-operate with other bodies in the best interests of men but will remain independent of all statutory, voluntary, commercial and political bodies.
Men to Men conducts counselling according to the Code of Practice and Ethics of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy and provides proper supervision for counsellors, helpline staff and group workers.